My advice to any writers who ask: Approach your work, especially your finished product, with a clear head and analytic brain. If you’re muddled, your story will be, too. If your bravado hides behind fuzziness, your story will feel Cowardly-lion-like (and unreliable), too.
Here’s the crux, as Jacqueline Doyle so elegantly articulates: “In fact many writers lead uneventful lives. Some have even deliberately led uneventful lives in service of their art. Gustave Flaubert's prescription for success as a writer counters the romantic myth so many young writers still cling to. "Soyez réglé dans votre vie et ordinaire comme un bourgeois," Flaubert wrote to Gertrude Tennant in December 1876, "afin d'être violent et original dans vos œuvres." Which translates something like this: "Be regular and ordinary in your life like a bourgeois, so you can be original and violent in your work."
I cannot improve upon that.